Another Step

Well, Mike was able to get a loan for his truck today. Getting a new vehicle is exciting... but there are so many things that makes this a big deal for us. We filed bankruptcy last year. We knew we would be starting over from the ground up. Getting the loan means that Mike can now start to build his credit up. It is a huge step for us. I already started with getting a loan for my van at the end of last year. I am feeling so very thankful that someone was willing to take a chance to help us out. So, we need to stay on top of these and keep building the credit!

We recieved a call today from the elementary school. Apparently, my son (step son) has been using some profound language. It is so frustrating to hear things like this. I have never heard him say any cuss word or profanity. Once I heard him call his sister a "pussy" when they were playing outside last year and that was immediatly corrected. He spent the last two weeks at our house and spent the weekend with his grandmother. Now he is on his mom's time. I am not sure what to think. I have so many opinions as to why.... but honestly, I don't want to be putting all the blame on one person. First of all, Mike and Nicole (mom) need to stop using the words if they do not want his kids to use them. The 'do as I say and not as I do' idea really does not even exist. We should act in a way that we want our children to act. Second, there really needs to be set rules at EVERY house where the kids are frequently at for child care; including our house, Nicole's house, grandma's house, and the sitter. The kids know they wont get away with anything at our house. If we say there is a punishment, then we follow through and generally, the kids don't make the same mistake in the same day. (Minus the minor screams or arguing) The kids are smart, they know where the rules are RULES and where the "rules" aren't crap. It brings me back to the summer when Jordan and Kaleb were involved in breaking out windows of an army tank in their town park while at their mom's. Why was no one watching them? Why were they still given so many priveleges after the incident? Did they learn Anything????

So, I went through my dresser drawer tonight to find all my weight loss medicines.... Hmmm. Apparently I got rid of all of them when I got pregnant this last November thinking I wouldn't need them for almost a year. Well, that sorta back fired! (we may try again) I know I know. Pills are not the way to go. Sometimes I just feel like I need them just to make myself feel like I really need to try. Now what? Do I go get more? Or do I get off my butt and do something! The hardest part is the first step.

I have been posting positive status updates on my facebook for a while. Using quotes to encourage people to think and consider their actions. Well, I think I might start using the Love Dare. It is a book from a movie called Fireproof. If you have never watched it, you need to. It could save your marriage. A friend of my husband's and I lent us the movie to watch and then bought us the book once when we seperated. Three years later.... here we are together with our family making our lives better.
So tomorrow, I begin with Dare #1. "Words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. Its better to hold your tongue than to say something you'll regret."
Hmmmm.... does this seem easy or hard to do? Love is patient. Show it for one day.